HUSBAND SCARCITY

THIS may not be d best time for me to write on this because of misinterpretations, but I can no longer resist d push.
"Husband scarcity" has become one of d challenges faced by many young girls today. If you go to prayer houses, majority of d intentions are prayer for a life partner. And this calls for concern.
Casting our minds back to d time of our mothers and grand mothers, was there really much of a "husband scarcity" problem? Or, may be there were more men than women then, or there was an adequate corresponding numbers of both genders. I don't think so, I think then, the women had values and were prepared to build a home and not park into a built home. Then, once a young man comes of age and can at least feed himself and his wife, he goes out in search of a wife and d woman really appreciates him and helps him to build a future.
What am I really trying to say? We created what we now see as "husband scarcity" for ourselves. Today, d reverse is d case. Ask an average girl to define her dream husband, u get things like "he has to b tall, handsome, fair, rich, owns a house at least, presentable" and then she adds "God fearing" In order not to sound so worldly. Then, check d number of girls around u n d number of men that meet that standard, and u will see d problem. U hear girls say, "I cannot suffer in my father's house and then go and start suffering with a man" What a wonderful dream! What if from d beginning, u have everything u want and there is no suffering, and later in d marriage, d ball turns around, then comes suffering. Will u run away? No one prays for suffering, but it is Good to start small and end big, than start big and end small.
The problem is that d description majority of d girls give of their ideal man is virtually d same. When 50 girls want d same kind of man and d man that fits what they want is just 1 man, and d man can only pick 1. then, what becomes of 44 others? They simply start lamenting of "husband scarcity".
Another irony of our time is that it is hard, due to d face of our economy to find a man who is of marriage age who possesses all those things these ladies want, legally, (except those involved in d internet fraud) even d number of those in internet fraud is not enough to match all those searching for already made husbands.
If you look around, majority of d ladies of substance, of Good value and virtue, who are ready to build a home with a man who has prospects, are married and not complaining of husband scarcity.
The easiest way to find a husband now, is to change your view of who a husband is. A husband is that man God made and then saw that it may b hard for him to really actualize His purpose for making him, without a help meet and then made d woman and gave to him and he felt complete and fulfilled. MARRIAGE IS NOT A POVERTY ALLEVIATION PROGRAM. It is a mission of building d family of God here on earth. For those who see marriage as a way out of poverty, it is a way into bondage.
Women are HOME BUILDERS, not HOME WARMERS.....DON'T CONFUSE A MAN'S PATH WITH HIS DESTINY. . Where he is today, may only be a route to where God has destined him to be tomorrow . Another truth is that YOU MAY B D ONLY FAST MEANS TO THAT HIS DESTINATION.
Join in alleviating "husband scarcity". PICK UP THE RIGHT VALUE.
I am not saying that you should pick anyone that comes your way and talks of marriage, because, of a truth, not all men are husband materials. What I am saying is that u should stop setting ur standard on material acquisitions or physical appearances. Look beyond d physical. WHAT MAKES A MAN WHO HE IS IS NOT WHAT HE OWNS OR HOW HE LOOKS, IT IS WHAT HE IS MADE UP OF. And that which he is made of is most times not seen with d physical eyes, only its effect can be seen. marriage is a permanent thing. Whatever is seen is temporal and that which is not seen is permanent.
Relax and go to God in prayer. God did not just make Eve for making sake, He made her for Adam's need to b met. God did not make u for making sake either (unless He has a special calling on u) He made u to meet a particular man's need. AND THAT MAN MAY BE THAT ONE THAT DOESN'T FIT INTO THAT YOUR "ALMIGHTY STANDARD" .
Just Try this, LOOK FOR THE MAN INSIDE THAT MAN, THEN YOU WILL FIND YOUR HUSBAND.